Neuro-Linguistic Programming(NLP)#2
NLP course-2: Mind Management
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NLP.... a course in self deception
This podcast is a set of 8 lectures designed to help you understand & navigate life’s linguistic labyrinth.
Course # 2 : Mind Management
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Transcript:
Speaker 0 (0s): All right. My friends we're back. Welcome back. So nice to see everybody, even though I can't really see you, I got my eyes closed and I'm imagining everybody being here. And I hope you guys imagined me smile and thinking about you because I love you guys. So welcome to the only moment that our ever is, the here and the now I'm going to start off with some Proverbs about advice and ignorance.
And this is from the book by Alice O'Neill, without any further ado, giving advice, there's no price for good advice, which is why a word to the wise is enough. And he, that speaks sows. Whereas he, that hears reaps leading by example is better than giving advice. So it's often best to say little about what you know, and nothing about what you don't for.
No matter how much care is taken, someone will be misled for many of the truth hurts as good medicine is bitter to the tongue. Good advice as harsh to the ear, which is why, if you would advise a bear, you deserve your fate. And many people use a stick for a nobody and a hint for a nobleman. A fool may say do, as I say, not as I do, but even a fool can give ideas to a wise man.
And remember, never give advice in a crowd heating advice. He asks advice in vain, who does not heat it. So ask for what you want. Don't offer me advice. Give me money. Forewarned is forearmed. They say so learn from new books and old teachers. And if you can't read, then experience will show you while they master points the way remember it's shameful, never to ask, and it's better to ask twice.
Then lose your way. Once as he who seeks advice, seldom airs many. A young Prince is told that listening to good advice is the way to wealth for a King with good counselors has a peaceful reign often because deep calls to deep. One piece of good advice is better than a bag full and crafty advice often comes from a fool. Bear in mind that another person's counsel is no command and that you must examine the advice not who gives it.
Remember if you ask a lazy person to work, he will only give you advice. But if you're lucky, you'll find the best advice is on your pillow. And the best word is left unsaid for all that is known, is not told ignoring advice. Only a bald child will not take advice. Only a bald child. Oops, let me rewind that only a bad child will not take advice for those nuns.
So death, as those who won't hear, and there's none so blind as those who won't see yet, no enemy is worse than bad advice because if the blind lead, the blind both will fall into the ditch, particularly as advice most needed is least heated. Of course, the person on shore is always the champion swimmer and many will show you the way after the Cartwheel breaks. Remember there is no right way to a wrong thing and advice after mischief is like medicine after death.
So bear in mind that wise men don't need advice and fools won't take it. So why not go to the square and ask advice, then go home and do what you like. I like it. I like it. It's a good way to start it off. It's a good way to start off this next class and neural linguistic programming. I'm going to call this class two a
Speaker 1 (4m 14s): Let's call it
Speaker 0 (4m 16s): A mind management. Why not? Why not? So what we're going to do here is I'm going to give you guys some key points and in true NLP fashion, I'm gonna use the power of three. So I am going to give you the key point. We're going to break it down. Then I'm going to show you how to use it in a defensive posture. And then I'm going to show you how to use it in an offensive posture.
And just so we know what those are. Let me go ahead and unpack that a little bit more for you before we really get started.
Speaker 1 (4m 58s): What the heck is this guy
Speaker 0 (4m 59s): Talking about an offense and defensive posture? I thought we were learning NLP. Well, we are, we aren't learning it, but it's imperative that you learn it in the defensive posture first. And what I mean by defensive is that you understand how these linguistic structures and these techniques hit you. All of the defensive posture, you must learn how all the techniques make sense to you.
How the linguistic pathways affect you, the feelings, the emotions, all of it, that's all connected. And that's the defensive posture. You need to learn how, how you are affected so that you can see how other people are affected so that you can see the emotions that the other people might feeling so that you can use a little bit of what I call tactical empathy, right?
That's going to be the orphans of posture, how you use these techniques against other people, but it's imperative that you learn the defense so that you can learn the offense. And I want you guys to remember this look in the mirror. That is your only competition, comprende day, Amigos and Amigos. Okay. So let's, let's get started here, right? Are you guys excited? I'm pretty excited.
This has been a great course, and I'm really looking forward to knocking this part out. Okay. So mine management, because look, the truth is few of us understand how our brains and minds work. We don't really know what pictures sounds, feelings, tastes, and smells are in our brains and minds, let alone how that information is impacting us right now.
Here's the deal guys and girls, the brain operates pretty much on its own doing its job to process information and keep us alive. In contrast, the mind is able to focus on more than just survival. It affords us the opportunity to create and choose from a myriad of options. First key point is going to be well formed outcomes, right?
And this is going to be a, a simple set of six questions that will enable you to flesh out and evaluate a goal before committing to it and, or committing to a course of action. I think of it as a, as also a, an orientation, you know, it's going to it's actually, it is, it's actually an orientation, a way of perceiving experience as a set of choices, rather than addressing the issue of why a problem exists.
It's going to help organize experience around what is wanted and how it is possible to achieve it. All right. So let's talk about these questions here. What specifically do you want, how will, you know, when you've achieved, what you want under what circumstances, where when and with whom do you want to have this result?
What stops you from having your desired outcome already? What resources will you need to help you create what you want? How are you going to get there? And what's the first step to begin to achieve this result. Okay, let's take it from the top. We're gonna go over them again. And I'm going to, we're going to work through some different postures here. What specifically do you want? You know, you'd be surprised at how aimlessly some people walk through life.
I don't think anybody listening to this is going to fit that category, but I can guarantee you, everybody listening to this know someone that does fit that category. It's imperative to have not only short term goals, but longterm goals, right? How, how can you get to your destination? If you don't have a map, right? This the road to someday, it leads to a town called nowhere. If you don't know where you're going, any road will take you there.
Wait, it's important. It's important to know this from a defensive posture so that you have vision so that you have purpose. So you can achieve a destination or a goal for those on an offensive side. If you know people that don't have a goal, then those are people that you can talk with using NLP, and you can make, you can make them help you achieve your goal.
How will you know when you've achieved? What you want? It's a good question, right? This is why a lot of people that are unhappy, they don't, they don't even know. Not only do they not have a goal, but when they get something, they didn't even know they really wanted it. So it's important that you make like a checklist. It's important that you I'll say it this way. It's important that you have evidence that you've achieved what you wanted.
And I would say that the offensive maneuver for this particular question is in fact the same as the previous question. If people don't have a goal, then they probably not going to know what they have to achieve to get it. And then again, these are the people that you can use to recruit to your team, to help you achieve your goals under what, where when, and with whom do you want to have this result? Okay, this one's a little more complicated and it's a little more in depth.
You know, under what circumstances let's think about. If you want, let's say you have a business meeting or you're trying to achieve financing or your, your interrelationship, and you want to take it to the next level or, you know, whatever the meeting is, whatever the relationship is, it's imperative that you understand the circumstances and that you prepare for those circumstances prior to having the meeting, you know, there's the old quote by sun Tzu that says the best way to lose any war is to let the enemy dictate the terms of battle.
And that fits in here, right? Where is your meeting going to be at? Are you going to meet someone at their office? You're going to, you're going to go to their home turf and have the meeting. You're going to meet on a neutral turf. Are you going to have them try to meet on your turf? When, when are you going to have the meeting? Don't have it at lunchtime studies show that there was a pretty good study done a while back. And it talked about court cases throughout the continental us and judges tended to give out punishments that were 15 to 62% more harsh on criminals for the same crime, right before lunch.
And they did in the morning, you know, we're affected by our hunger. We're affected by emotions. We're affected by how we slept. So you want to have that meeting. You want to have that talk with someone. You want to have that important point of dialogue on your terms. And you'll probably want to do it in the morning with whom do you want to have it? Is this one of your peers? Is this someone that is in your family? Is it someone with whom you're trying to get a promotion?
Is it someone you're trying to impress? You see all of these points add up and the practitioner of NLP is going to spend a lot of time thinking about thinking. You're going to have this stuff mapped out in your mind. You're going to have run through the scenarios in your own mind, and you're going to come up with different results. And that's the defensive posture. You're going to go through all of this in your head. Prior to the meeting in the beginning, it takes a long time. You're going to write out questions. You're going to think about it from different points of view, in different angles.
And then as you get good at it, then you'll be able to utilize the authentic positioning, which is you're going to be able to think a lot quicker on your feet. You're going to be able to understand, and the people talking with you, they failed to account for the circumstances they didn't. They let you dictate the rules of the battle. They let you set up the time. What stops you from having your desired outcome already?
This is where honesty plays a role. What is it? What's the reason why you don't have the things that you want to have. And you gotta be honest here. If you're honest with yourself, you can move past this one in a heartbeat. But what you'll find out is that the first answer you'll give to yourself about why you haven't achieved, what you wanted, why you're not, where you want to be is probably not going to be a correct answer. You've got to dig a little deeper.
That's the defensive posture. The offensive posture is if you were to ask somebody else this question, you would know that the first answer they give you is probably bullshit. Probably the second, probably the third, probably even the fourth or fifth answer is all bullshit. And the only way you're going to figure that out is because you are going to try to answer it yourself. And you're going to realize the first five questions. The first five answers you gave were bullshit. Do you see all the, how the defense and offense is working together and why it's imperative for you to understand defense before you can be really good at offense?
How are you going to get there? And what's the first step to begin to achieve this result? You know, I met a guy one time smart guy motivated, and he wanted, he had his big picture. He had his, he had his results, you know, and his result, he wanted to open up like a children's center. And he had a lot of really good ideas. You know, he wanted there to be like a, a magnesium type area with counselors and teachers and a experimental science lab room.
And you know, all this awesome stuff for kids to go and learn. And you know, when you look at it from, from that point of view, you're like, Oh yeah, that sounds awesome. You know, but you can't go from a to Z. You gotta go from a to B and this guy didn't have a, B, he didn't have a, see, he didn't have a D he just had a to Z. He had a big thick binder with like 300 pages, graphs and maps and statistics and, you know, building plans, but you know, how can gonna get the capital for that.
So it's important to understand how you're going to get there and how are you going to get anywhere begins with a first step. So watch out for confirmation bias and watch out for the big picture. You know, it's intoxicating to think of the end result, and you should do it. However, you got to think of how you're going to get there.
The next key point it's called in congruence. You know what that is? That is when you're feeling uncertain or conflicted. And I have learned that when you feel uncertain or conflicted, it's usually an internal signal. And that internal signal is it's like a smoke alarm, right. There may not actually be a fire, but it's prudent to determine what set it off when you, when you find yourself pausing.
And in congruency, when you hear that voice in your head, you got to figure out, okay, is this voice in my head, a nuisance? Or is this voice, you know, is it a nuisance? Can I just turn down the volume? Or is this a voice I need to listen to? Is this voice telling me something important? Usually in congruence comes with different value systems. You know, how much money do you need to compromise your values? That's a very common in congruent
Speaker 2 (18m 58s): Posture.
Speaker 0 (19m 2s): And when you, when you feel, when you hear the smoke alarm of in congruence, you're vulnerable, be aware of that. That's the defensive posture. Additionally, when you're speaking with someone on the orphans and you spot the incongruence, that's when you can push them. You know what I mean? By that? Let's say you ask them, Hey, we're going to go. We're all going to go. We're all going to leave. And we're going to go do this thing.
If that person pauses. And they say, Oh, you know, I'm not sure if I can make that. She that's, that's the in congruence, it's this wishy washy kind of middle of the road answer. And it doesn't matter which way you push you. You could either say, come on, let's do it. Or, Hey, let's not do this, whatever answer you get. If they, if, if you say, let's go do this thing. And they say, Oh, you know what? I'm not exactly sure about that. That means that they're afraid to leave something behind and on the opposite, you know, that would, that would mean if they want to go do it.
And they're gung ho, that means that they're not afraid. They don't have anything to lose left behind. You see? So either way you push, you gained valuable knowledge on what those person's motivation and insights might be. And that gives you leverage. That's going to be the offensive posture in congruences is something that we all have. And it's important that if you feel that you really take time to find out what it is, that's giving you that feeling.
That's back to the defense. Next key point, the structure of experiences based on five representational systems called modalities, pictures, sounds, feelings, tastes, and smells. I want you to think about this little sound bite right here. The structure of experience, the structure of experience, the structure of experience. All our experience are structured.
They're all built on different foundations. And while the majority of people use the same structures, we may interlace some of those modalities together, right? Some people are visual learners. Some people go on a sense of feeling. Some people are more audio learners. Remember that, remember the three pigs, remember their structures.
How's a straw, how's a sticks house of bricks. It's important to understand the structures on which experience is built, right? There's a different way to take down each one of those structures in the offensive mode. If it's built a straw, if it's built the sticks, if it's built of bricks, it's important on a defensive posture to understand how you build structures.
Are you an audio? Are you an audio person? Are you a visual person? When speaking to someone, when someone's speaking to you, can they best persuade you if they use a poetic metaphor, something that sounds beautiful. Is it best if they use some sort of visual analogy? Is it better if they use a combination of two, it's important that you find out what kind of structures that you build experience best with?
Cause you can use those as anchors later. And that's the defensive posture from the offensive posture. It's important to understand how other people build their structures, because you'll be best able to convince, persuade or come to terms with people. When you find out their preferred method of structure building, that's the authentic pattern let's go to.
The next key point, associating into the picture usually makes the impact of seeing the image more intense, either positive or negative for the person recalling different memories in a disassociated way, reduces the emotional charge and makes it easier to get the related to the situation. So let me unpack that. That's kind of, I don't know if I really worded that the right way, so I'm going to read it again.
And then I'm going to give you an example associating into the picture. Usually it makes the impact of seeing the image more intense and it can be either positive or negative, recalling different memories in a disassociated way, reduces the emotional charge and makes it easier to get the information related to the situation. So let me explain this key point to you using the emotion of empathy.
Most people think empathy is thinking from another person's point of view and that's as deep as they ever get, but there's distinctions. And that's what this key point is talking about. And the distinctions I'm going to give him this example about empathy is this, imagine someone in a distress situation, okay. Now I want you to imagine how that person feels in that distress situation.
Are you doing it? Are you imagining how that person may feel and that distress situation? Okay, good. Now I want you to think about putting yourself in that person's shoes and that distress situation. Actually, I want you to think about if you were that person and the distress situation, are you doing it? How do you feel now? Do you feel the difference in the first case, when I asked you to put yourself in a position where you're, you're thinking about how they must feel in that situation, when that case you're actually gonna have a higher impact of empathy, because you are focusing strictly on their feelings and how they must feel.
In the second case, you're gonna have a little bit lower volume on empathy, because you're going to also feel anxiety. Statistics show that people who think about empathy by being in the other person's shoes, they tend to also feel the anxiety in which that person in a stressful situation is going through. You see the way you word stuff like that, think about their feelings versus thinking about being them.
It's a very small change. So in a defensive posture from this point forward, when you think about empathy or when you think about emotional situations of other people or yourself, think about and focus on the feelings of that situation, and you'll be able to recall, or you'll be able to come up with solutions to the problem.
Don't think about being that person, think about how that person was feel from an offensive posture. If you're going to wield this key point of NLP against someone else, you want to tell someone else to, Hey, put yourself in their shoes. Because when you do that, you're putting that person in a state of anxiety, as well, as well as with whatever emotional charge you're going to add to it.
It's an important one. And you may have to relisten to this again to truly understand it. But once you do understand it, it will be one of your most effective tools in the toolkit feeling. Next key point, feeling an emotion is an option. Feeling any emotion is an option. Feeling any emotion is an option. You all know what I mean by that. If you're listening to this, I'm confident that you've been through times in your life, where you're in the middle of something, you get bad news and you say, I can't deal with this right now.
Let me finish what I'm doing and that I can come back to that. So you've turned down the volume on that emotion. And that's what people are talking about. When they say emotion is an option. Be it pain, be a tiredness, be it confusion or agitation or anger you can choose to at least for a time, turn down the volume on that emotion. It's difficult to learn, but once you learn it, it becomes an effective tool.
The next key point, most of our emotions, interpretations and reactions are so well-rehearsed that they're automatic. And the initial cause is not out of our awareness to understand what's going on. You need to slow down the mental movie so that you can decide so that you can discover the cue. Does that make sense? I'm going to tell you what Q is in a minute throughout our whole life.
I mean, we've been, we've been conditioned and there's a lot of cultural conditioning. So different cultures have been conditioned differently. However, whatever culture you're in know that the you have in social settings are usually reactions that have been conditioned by the culture. The interpretations of social interactions are usually conditioned.
And it's important just to know that your reaction is probably a conditioned reaction will allow you to stop slow down and question whether your reaction, your emotion or your interpretation is the accurate one. Here comes the real gold. I'm going to show you how to do that. Whenever you feel yourself in an emotional state, anger, sadness, frustration, you know, these are, these tend to be reactionary States that come upon us quickly.
When you find yourself with an emotion sneaking up on you, I want you to think a cue and think of curiosity, think of cue and think of curiosity, the word, the letter Q equals curiosity equals the end of negative emotions. When you're curious about something you're not angry. When you're curious about something, you're not frustrated.
When you're curious about something, you are in a state where you can learn. And if you can associate a quick onset of emotions to curiosity, you can negate the negative effects of the destructive behaviors. Does that make sense to you? I want you to get curious. Are you angry? Get curious, frustrated, curious, upset, curious.
I'm losing my mind. Get curious. Curiosity, curiosity, curiosity. It's a beautiful word. Say it with me. Curiosity, curiosity, curiosity, serenity. Now curiosity. When you feel an emotional state, get curious. Wonder, don't wonder why the person you're upset with is such a jackass. Be curious why you're upset.
Do not get frustrated that people won't leave you alone. Get curious why that bothers you. That curiosity is the real goal. Then it's it fundamentally changes. It's a shift in your mindset and the fact that you just, the word curiosity from now. Try it. Curiosity. Can you feel the change? If you're honest with yourself, the programming we just did right there.
The next time you get mad, I promise you. You're probably going to start laughing. You're going to get curious. You're welcome. You're welcome. You will be curious. My friend, like, see I'm doing it now. Every time I start getting mad or I get upset, I have learned to wield this form of defense. Curiosity is the best defense. So use it. My friends get curious. Why are you angry? Why are you frustrated? Why is that person? You know, it's not them.
It's you be curious about it? That's one of my favorite ones. And that's why I really drilled hard on that one. I think it's effective. And it's had an amazing effect on me. That's the defensive posture. The offensive posture is when you see somebody else fly off the handle, you see somebody else start snapping. I want you to, you're already programmed that when you feel any emotion, anger, frustration, tired sadness.
When you feel that emotion, you're going to get curious about why you do it. But now after you've mastered the defense, this is one of the ones where the offense and defense go hand in hand. You've already done the work. You're getting curious if you got angry. So now when you see someone else fly off the handle, you're not going to be reactionary. You're going to be curious why they're angry. And this is incredibly important because they're probably not understanding why they're angry. And if you can understand, if you get curious and you can understand why they're having the reaction they're having with now puts you in an incredibly powerful position.
Now, you know something about them that they don't know about themselves. That's when you can really utilize NLP in an effective way. Next key point. This one's going to be, let me just read it. Improving your focus and productivity.
We all can use help there. We can all use help there. So let's see what I wrote down for focus and productivity. I got a five question checklist for you in the morning. Here's what it's going to be. What am I looking forward to today? Longer-term what am I looking forward to? Am I doing things that lead directly to my goals? Am I being my best friend and supporter? Am I in my body and enjoying the gift of being alive?
Did you get all those? Let's run through them again and we'll give some offense defense. What am I looking forward to today? First thing, when you wake up the defense that allows you to be focused right off the bat, roll out of bed. You got something to look forward to changes your state longterm. What am I looking forward to? This is going to be something that helps you pull yourself out of a funk at about Wednesday at 1130 or at four o'clock on some idle Tuesday.
When you get bad news, you're going to have this second question of longer term. What am I looking forward to? That answer is going to be able to pull you out of the doldrums. Am I doing things that lead directly to my goals? This is going to be the one that saves you from a little bit of or behavior or making some decisions that probably aren't in your best interest. Am I being my best friend and supporter? This is a tough one. A lot of the times we are our own worst critics.
We're more difficult on ourselves than anybody else. And you should have good goals for yourself, but you should be mindful that your criticism of yourself isn't destructive. Am I in my body and enjoying the gift of being alive? Are you focusing on how you feel taking care of your body when times are tough? When, when it looks like the world's crashing down on you, can you, can you look in the mirror and fake a smile and just tell yourself, gotta take the good with the bad, right?
These are the defensive postures here
Speaker 1 (37m 29s): On the offense.
Speaker 0 (37m 32s): What am I looking forward to today? The way I'm going to tell you the way I use these on offense, you may find a different way of using them or be it more subtle or sinister or superficial. But this is my strategy and how I use them. I almost, I don't ask people these questions directly, but I'll work them into a conversation, especially with people that I care about and love you.
So the first one, I would just be like, Hey, what's going on today? Or where are you headed to? And they'll fill a lot of times, he will give you this answer. That's kind of humdrum or, you know, not very enthusiastic, but if you can find a nugget in there of like, Oh, we're going to go, I got this practice and I'm going to do that thing, but Oh no, wait, what are you practicing? You know, then you can, you can perk up that person and you can change the way they feel about what they're going to do by adding a emotion into the way you perceive their question.
And you do the same thing with the second question, which is longer term, what am I looking forward to? You can ask them if they've got any plans in the future or what projects they're working on. And when they tell you what those things are, you want to push back on them with a little bit of a, not so much a positivity bomb, but a heightened sense of awareness bomb, you know, put a little infliction in your voice. Oh, you're working on that. That sounds interesting.
Really? That's what you got going on. I didn't know. I didn't know you did that. How long have you been doing that? And you got follow it up with a second or third question, right? It's like, it's like going to fight. You just don't throw a jab, right? The jab is the setup. And then you come with like a hook or do you come up with two more shots after that? In these questions or an NLP? A lot of times you have a setup, you know, sometimes you miss the first setup. So you have a jab, jab hook, uppercut jab, jab hook, upper cut, right, right.
Cross, right cross jab. You start working these questions like you would a fight. And you're leading when you're using these techniques. What you're doing in the conversation is you were chasing them around the ring. And eventually you're going to find the combination that works. You're going to back them into that corner. And you're going to get the results you want. That's a good way to think about neuro linguistic programming. You have an answer for what they're going to say, but this only comes, this kind of offensive maneuver can only come from you doing your homework and understand in a defensive posture, you have to have a lot of internal dialogue and have, don't be afraid to talk to yourself.
People probably make fun of you, but it's the best way to work out the material you need to be effective in neuro linguistic programming. Think of it as that fight, think about being in the ring and the conversation you're having with someone is a series of common nations. Ultimately leading you to a knockout only, you don't want them to see the punches you're throwing. You don't want to be odd.
You don't want to Telegraph. You don't want to be obvious, right? The fist in the velvet glove. So besides focus and productivity, I was, I wasn't going to talk about this part, but I'll, I'll just throw it in there. Cause I know that I have friends that suffer with depression and I've suffered with it from time to time.
And, and everybody goes through. Everybody goes through high points and low points. And I don't really want to call depression. I just like to call it a, a lower state of consciousness. And when you feel that way, it's usually from a neuro neuro linguistic point of view. What's going on is the language that's associated with depression is usually associated with something personal, something pervasive or something permanent.
Think of it as the three PS, the three PS of depression, the three PS of lower consciousness, the three PS of problems, personal pervasive, and permanent. If someone, if you're low, if someone you know is low, probably a personal relationship, personal finance could be something that's pervasive.
But the most common one I have found is people get into this idea of permanence. Why does this always, Oh, it's never going to get any better. I'm never going to get out of this marriage. I'm never going to get out of this debt. People believe they, they train themselves to think that permanent is a thing. And if you find yourself in any of these situations, if you, if you start getting bombed, if you get down, just think the three PS be like, Oh, it's, it's, it's personal, it's pervasive and permanent.
And all three of those P's are probably bullshit. You're probably feeling sorry for yourself. Snap the fuck out of it. All right. And nothing in life is permanent. Nothing. That's the, that's the defensive posture. Understand that all three of the PS, three PS, that's the defensive posture on the offensive posture know that you can use your knowledge of the three PS to snap somebody else out of those situations.
Of course, these could also be used to put people in different States. And if you were find yourself in a situation in which you must diff you must defend yourself by being the aggressor. Then you can use the strategies that the three P's to take out a weak or opponent and emotionally weaker opponent. And just as a side note, look, everything I'm teaching you guys. It could be used really sinister.
And I, I struggle with that. I, I got a call from my mentor that hurt my first class on it. And he, he asked me like, what am I doing to make sure that the people I teach this to aren't going to use it to hurt other people. I didn't have a real good answer for him, told them that. I believe, I believe that in today's climate, it's imperative that as many people that want to learn it can learn it because I believe that this type of linguistic programming is out of control.
And it's just being used against our parents, our kids and ourselves. And if the side effects of me teaching a large number of people, how to use NLP is that some people use it for sinister means then. So be it. I think that there's going to be, I have much more faith in humanity and much more faith in the people that I love and care about to use these techniques the right way. So use them the right way. All right, guys, I love you. Hope you enjoyed this one.
We're going to finish up here. I think we have maybe six more courses. So I'll be doing six more lectures on these. And this is course two. I love you guys. I will talk to you soon.
This podcast is a set of 8 lectures designed to help you understand & navigate life’s linguistic labyrinth.
Course # 2 : Mind Management
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Transcript:
Speaker 0 (0s): All right. My friends we're back. Welcome back. So nice to see everybody, even though I can't really see you, I got my eyes closed and I'm imagining everybody being here. And I hope you guys imagined me smile and thinking about you because I love you guys. So welcome to the only moment that our ever is, the here and the now I'm going to start off with some Proverbs about advice and ignorance.
And this is from the book by Alice O'Neill, without any further ado, giving advice, there's no price for good advice, which is why a word to the wise is enough. And he, that speaks sows. Whereas he, that hears reaps leading by example is better than giving advice. So it's often best to say little about what you know, and nothing about what you don't for.
No matter how much care is taken, someone will be misled for many of the truth hurts as good medicine is bitter to the tongue. Good advice as harsh to the ear, which is why, if you would advise a bear, you deserve your fate. And many people use a stick for a nobody and a hint for a nobleman. A fool may say do, as I say, not as I do, but even a fool can give ideas to a wise man.
And remember, never give advice in a crowd heating advice. He asks advice in vain, who does not heat it. So ask for what you want. Don't offer me advice. Give me money. Forewarned is forearmed. They say so learn from new books and old teachers. And if you can't read, then experience will show you while they master points the way remember it's shameful, never to ask, and it's better to ask twice.
Then lose your way. Once as he who seeks advice, seldom airs many. A young Prince is told that listening to good advice is the way to wealth for a King with good counselors has a peaceful reign often because deep calls to deep. One piece of good advice is better than a bag full and crafty advice often comes from a fool. Bear in mind that another person's counsel is no command and that you must examine the advice not who gives it.
Remember if you ask a lazy person to work, he will only give you advice. But if you're lucky, you'll find the best advice is on your pillow. And the best word is left unsaid for all that is known, is not told ignoring advice. Only a bald child will not take advice. Only a bald child. Oops, let me rewind that only a bad child will not take advice for those nuns.
So death, as those who won't hear, and there's none so blind as those who won't see yet, no enemy is worse than bad advice because if the blind lead, the blind both will fall into the ditch, particularly as advice most needed is least heated. Of course, the person on shore is always the champion swimmer and many will show you the way after the Cartwheel breaks. Remember there is no right way to a wrong thing and advice after mischief is like medicine after death.
So bear in mind that wise men don't need advice and fools won't take it. So why not go to the square and ask advice, then go home and do what you like. I like it. I like it. It's a good way to start it off. It's a good way to start off this next class and neural linguistic programming. I'm going to call this class two a
Speaker 1 (4m 14s): Let's call it
Speaker 0 (4m 16s): A mind management. Why not? Why not? So what we're going to do here is I'm going to give you guys some key points and in true NLP fashion, I'm gonna use the power of three. So I am going to give you the key point. We're going to break it down. Then I'm going to show you how to use it in a defensive posture. And then I'm going to show you how to use it in an offensive posture.
And just so we know what those are. Let me go ahead and unpack that a little bit more for you before we really get started.
Speaker 1 (4m 58s): What the heck is this guy
Speaker 0 (4m 59s): Talking about an offense and defensive posture? I thought we were learning NLP. Well, we are, we aren't learning it, but it's imperative that you learn it in the defensive posture first. And what I mean by defensive is that you understand how these linguistic structures and these techniques hit you. All of the defensive posture, you must learn how all the techniques make sense to you.
How the linguistic pathways affect you, the feelings, the emotions, all of it, that's all connected. And that's the defensive posture. You need to learn how, how you are affected so that you can see how other people are affected so that you can see the emotions that the other people might feeling so that you can use a little bit of what I call tactical empathy, right?
That's going to be the orphans of posture, how you use these techniques against other people, but it's imperative that you learn the defense so that you can learn the offense. And I want you guys to remember this look in the mirror. That is your only competition, comprende day, Amigos and Amigos. Okay. So let's, let's get started here, right? Are you guys excited? I'm pretty excited.
This has been a great course, and I'm really looking forward to knocking this part out. Okay. So mine management, because look, the truth is few of us understand how our brains and minds work. We don't really know what pictures sounds, feelings, tastes, and smells are in our brains and minds, let alone how that information is impacting us right now.
Here's the deal guys and girls, the brain operates pretty much on its own doing its job to process information and keep us alive. In contrast, the mind is able to focus on more than just survival. It affords us the opportunity to create and choose from a myriad of options. First key point is going to be well formed outcomes, right?
And this is going to be a, a simple set of six questions that will enable you to flesh out and evaluate a goal before committing to it and, or committing to a course of action. I think of it as a, as also a, an orientation, you know, it's going to it's actually, it is, it's actually an orientation, a way of perceiving experience as a set of choices, rather than addressing the issue of why a problem exists.
It's going to help organize experience around what is wanted and how it is possible to achieve it. All right. So let's talk about these questions here. What specifically do you want, how will, you know, when you've achieved, what you want under what circumstances, where when and with whom do you want to have this result?
What stops you from having your desired outcome already? What resources will you need to help you create what you want? How are you going to get there? And what's the first step to begin to achieve this result. Okay, let's take it from the top. We're gonna go over them again. And I'm going to, we're going to work through some different postures here. What specifically do you want? You know, you'd be surprised at how aimlessly some people walk through life.
I don't think anybody listening to this is going to fit that category, but I can guarantee you, everybody listening to this know someone that does fit that category. It's imperative to have not only short term goals, but longterm goals, right? How, how can you get to your destination? If you don't have a map, right? This the road to someday, it leads to a town called nowhere. If you don't know where you're going, any road will take you there.
Wait, it's important. It's important to know this from a defensive posture so that you have vision so that you have purpose. So you can achieve a destination or a goal for those on an offensive side. If you know people that don't have a goal, then those are people that you can talk with using NLP, and you can make, you can make them help you achieve your goal.
How will you know when you've achieved? What you want? It's a good question, right? This is why a lot of people that are unhappy, they don't, they don't even know. Not only do they not have a goal, but when they get something, they didn't even know they really wanted it. So it's important that you make like a checklist. It's important that you I'll say it this way. It's important that you have evidence that you've achieved what you wanted.
And I would say that the offensive maneuver for this particular question is in fact the same as the previous question. If people don't have a goal, then they probably not going to know what they have to achieve to get it. And then again, these are the people that you can use to recruit to your team, to help you achieve your goals under what, where when, and with whom do you want to have this result? Okay, this one's a little more complicated and it's a little more in depth.
You know, under what circumstances let's think about. If you want, let's say you have a business meeting or you're trying to achieve financing or your, your interrelationship, and you want to take it to the next level or, you know, whatever the meeting is, whatever the relationship is, it's imperative that you understand the circumstances and that you prepare for those circumstances prior to having the meeting, you know, there's the old quote by sun Tzu that says the best way to lose any war is to let the enemy dictate the terms of battle.
And that fits in here, right? Where is your meeting going to be at? Are you going to meet someone at their office? You're going to, you're going to go to their home turf and have the meeting. You're going to meet on a neutral turf. Are you going to have them try to meet on your turf? When, when are you going to have the meeting? Don't have it at lunchtime studies show that there was a pretty good study done a while back. And it talked about court cases throughout the continental us and judges tended to give out punishments that were 15 to 62% more harsh on criminals for the same crime, right before lunch.
And they did in the morning, you know, we're affected by our hunger. We're affected by emotions. We're affected by how we slept. So you want to have that meeting. You want to have that talk with someone. You want to have that important point of dialogue on your terms. And you'll probably want to do it in the morning with whom do you want to have it? Is this one of your peers? Is this someone that is in your family? Is it someone with whom you're trying to get a promotion?
Is it someone you're trying to impress? You see all of these points add up and the practitioner of NLP is going to spend a lot of time thinking about thinking. You're going to have this stuff mapped out in your mind. You're going to have run through the scenarios in your own mind, and you're going to come up with different results. And that's the defensive posture. You're going to go through all of this in your head. Prior to the meeting in the beginning, it takes a long time. You're going to write out questions. You're going to think about it from different points of view, in different angles.
And then as you get good at it, then you'll be able to utilize the authentic positioning, which is you're going to be able to think a lot quicker on your feet. You're going to be able to understand, and the people talking with you, they failed to account for the circumstances they didn't. They let you dictate the rules of the battle. They let you set up the time. What stops you from having your desired outcome already?
This is where honesty plays a role. What is it? What's the reason why you don't have the things that you want to have. And you gotta be honest here. If you're honest with yourself, you can move past this one in a heartbeat. But what you'll find out is that the first answer you'll give to yourself about why you haven't achieved, what you wanted, why you're not, where you want to be is probably not going to be a correct answer. You've got to dig a little deeper.
That's the defensive posture. The offensive posture is if you were to ask somebody else this question, you would know that the first answer they give you is probably bullshit. Probably the second, probably the third, probably even the fourth or fifth answer is all bullshit. And the only way you're going to figure that out is because you are going to try to answer it yourself. And you're going to realize the first five questions. The first five answers you gave were bullshit. Do you see all the, how the defense and offense is working together and why it's imperative for you to understand defense before you can be really good at offense?
How are you going to get there? And what's the first step to begin to achieve this result? You know, I met a guy one time smart guy motivated, and he wanted, he had his big picture. He had his, he had his results, you know, and his result, he wanted to open up like a children's center. And he had a lot of really good ideas. You know, he wanted there to be like a, a magnesium type area with counselors and teachers and a experimental science lab room.
And you know, all this awesome stuff for kids to go and learn. And you know, when you look at it from, from that point of view, you're like, Oh yeah, that sounds awesome. You know, but you can't go from a to Z. You gotta go from a to B and this guy didn't have a, B, he didn't have a, see, he didn't have a D he just had a to Z. He had a big thick binder with like 300 pages, graphs and maps and statistics and, you know, building plans, but you know, how can gonna get the capital for that.
So it's important to understand how you're going to get there and how are you going to get anywhere begins with a first step. So watch out for confirmation bias and watch out for the big picture. You know, it's intoxicating to think of the end result, and you should do it. However, you got to think of how you're going to get there.
The next key point it's called in congruence. You know what that is? That is when you're feeling uncertain or conflicted. And I have learned that when you feel uncertain or conflicted, it's usually an internal signal. And that internal signal is it's like a smoke alarm, right. There may not actually be a fire, but it's prudent to determine what set it off when you, when you find yourself pausing.
And in congruency, when you hear that voice in your head, you got to figure out, okay, is this voice in my head, a nuisance? Or is this voice, you know, is it a nuisance? Can I just turn down the volume? Or is this a voice I need to listen to? Is this voice telling me something important? Usually in congruence comes with different value systems. You know, how much money do you need to compromise your values? That's a very common in congruent
Speaker 2 (18m 58s): Posture.
Speaker 0 (19m 2s): And when you, when you feel, when you hear the smoke alarm of in congruence, you're vulnerable, be aware of that. That's the defensive posture. Additionally, when you're speaking with someone on the orphans and you spot the incongruence, that's when you can push them. You know what I mean? By that? Let's say you ask them, Hey, we're going to go. We're all going to go. We're all going to leave. And we're going to go do this thing.
If that person pauses. And they say, Oh, you know, I'm not sure if I can make that. She that's, that's the in congruence, it's this wishy washy kind of middle of the road answer. And it doesn't matter which way you push you. You could either say, come on, let's do it. Or, Hey, let's not do this, whatever answer you get. If they, if, if you say, let's go do this thing. And they say, Oh, you know what? I'm not exactly sure about that. That means that they're afraid to leave something behind and on the opposite, you know, that would, that would mean if they want to go do it.
And they're gung ho, that means that they're not afraid. They don't have anything to lose left behind. You see? So either way you push, you gained valuable knowledge on what those person's motivation and insights might be. And that gives you leverage. That's going to be the offensive posture in congruences is something that we all have. And it's important that if you feel that you really take time to find out what it is, that's giving you that feeling.
That's back to the defense. Next key point, the structure of experiences based on five representational systems called modalities, pictures, sounds, feelings, tastes, and smells. I want you to think about this little sound bite right here. The structure of experience, the structure of experience, the structure of experience. All our experience are structured.
They're all built on different foundations. And while the majority of people use the same structures, we may interlace some of those modalities together, right? Some people are visual learners. Some people go on a sense of feeling. Some people are more audio learners. Remember that, remember the three pigs, remember their structures.
How's a straw, how's a sticks house of bricks. It's important to understand the structures on which experience is built, right? There's a different way to take down each one of those structures in the offensive mode. If it's built a straw, if it's built the sticks, if it's built of bricks, it's important on a defensive posture to understand how you build structures.
Are you an audio? Are you an audio person? Are you a visual person? When speaking to someone, when someone's speaking to you, can they best persuade you if they use a poetic metaphor, something that sounds beautiful. Is it best if they use some sort of visual analogy? Is it better if they use a combination of two, it's important that you find out what kind of structures that you build experience best with?
Cause you can use those as anchors later. And that's the defensive posture from the offensive posture. It's important to understand how other people build their structures, because you'll be best able to convince, persuade or come to terms with people. When you find out their preferred method of structure building, that's the authentic pattern let's go to.
The next key point, associating into the picture usually makes the impact of seeing the image more intense, either positive or negative for the person recalling different memories in a disassociated way, reduces the emotional charge and makes it easier to get the related to the situation. So let me unpack that. That's kind of, I don't know if I really worded that the right way, so I'm going to read it again.
And then I'm going to give you an example associating into the picture. Usually it makes the impact of seeing the image more intense and it can be either positive or negative, recalling different memories in a disassociated way, reduces the emotional charge and makes it easier to get the information related to the situation. So let me explain this key point to you using the emotion of empathy.
Most people think empathy is thinking from another person's point of view and that's as deep as they ever get, but there's distinctions. And that's what this key point is talking about. And the distinctions I'm going to give him this example about empathy is this, imagine someone in a distress situation, okay. Now I want you to imagine how that person feels in that distress situation.
Are you doing it? Are you imagining how that person may feel and that distress situation? Okay, good. Now I want you to think about putting yourself in that person's shoes and that distress situation. Actually, I want you to think about if you were that person and the distress situation, are you doing it? How do you feel now? Do you feel the difference in the first case, when I asked you to put yourself in a position where you're, you're thinking about how they must feel in that situation, when that case you're actually gonna have a higher impact of empathy, because you are focusing strictly on their feelings and how they must feel.
In the second case, you're gonna have a little bit lower volume on empathy, because you're going to also feel anxiety. Statistics show that people who think about empathy by being in the other person's shoes, they tend to also feel the anxiety in which that person in a stressful situation is going through. You see the way you word stuff like that, think about their feelings versus thinking about being them.
It's a very small change. So in a defensive posture from this point forward, when you think about empathy or when you think about emotional situations of other people or yourself, think about and focus on the feelings of that situation, and you'll be able to recall, or you'll be able to come up with solutions to the problem.
Don't think about being that person, think about how that person was feel from an offensive posture. If you're going to wield this key point of NLP against someone else, you want to tell someone else to, Hey, put yourself in their shoes. Because when you do that, you're putting that person in a state of anxiety, as well, as well as with whatever emotional charge you're going to add to it.
It's an important one. And you may have to relisten to this again to truly understand it. But once you do understand it, it will be one of your most effective tools in the toolkit feeling. Next key point, feeling an emotion is an option. Feeling any emotion is an option. Feeling any emotion is an option. You all know what I mean by that. If you're listening to this, I'm confident that you've been through times in your life, where you're in the middle of something, you get bad news and you say, I can't deal with this right now.
Let me finish what I'm doing and that I can come back to that. So you've turned down the volume on that emotion. And that's what people are talking about. When they say emotion is an option. Be it pain, be a tiredness, be it confusion or agitation or anger you can choose to at least for a time, turn down the volume on that emotion. It's difficult to learn, but once you learn it, it becomes an effective tool.
The next key point, most of our emotions, interpretations and reactions are so well-rehearsed that they're automatic. And the initial cause is not out of our awareness to understand what's going on. You need to slow down the mental movie so that you can decide so that you can discover the cue. Does that make sense? I'm going to tell you what Q is in a minute throughout our whole life.
I mean, we've been, we've been conditioned and there's a lot of cultural conditioning. So different cultures have been conditioned differently. However, whatever culture you're in know that the you have in social settings are usually reactions that have been conditioned by the culture. The interpretations of social interactions are usually conditioned.
And it's important just to know that your reaction is probably a conditioned reaction will allow you to stop slow down and question whether your reaction, your emotion or your interpretation is the accurate one. Here comes the real gold. I'm going to show you how to do that. Whenever you feel yourself in an emotional state, anger, sadness, frustration, you know, these are, these tend to be reactionary States that come upon us quickly.
When you find yourself with an emotion sneaking up on you, I want you to think a cue and think of curiosity, think of cue and think of curiosity, the word, the letter Q equals curiosity equals the end of negative emotions. When you're curious about something you're not angry. When you're curious about something, you're not frustrated.
When you're curious about something, you are in a state where you can learn. And if you can associate a quick onset of emotions to curiosity, you can negate the negative effects of the destructive behaviors. Does that make sense to you? I want you to get curious. Are you angry? Get curious, frustrated, curious, upset, curious.
I'm losing my mind. Get curious. Curiosity, curiosity, curiosity. It's a beautiful word. Say it with me. Curiosity, curiosity, curiosity, serenity. Now curiosity. When you feel an emotional state, get curious. Wonder, don't wonder why the person you're upset with is such a jackass. Be curious why you're upset.
Do not get frustrated that people won't leave you alone. Get curious why that bothers you. That curiosity is the real goal. Then it's it fundamentally changes. It's a shift in your mindset and the fact that you just, the word curiosity from now. Try it. Curiosity. Can you feel the change? If you're honest with yourself, the programming we just did right there.
The next time you get mad, I promise you. You're probably going to start laughing. You're going to get curious. You're welcome. You're welcome. You will be curious. My friend, like, see I'm doing it now. Every time I start getting mad or I get upset, I have learned to wield this form of defense. Curiosity is the best defense. So use it. My friends get curious. Why are you angry? Why are you frustrated? Why is that person? You know, it's not them.
It's you be curious about it? That's one of my favorite ones. And that's why I really drilled hard on that one. I think it's effective. And it's had an amazing effect on me. That's the defensive posture. The offensive posture is when you see somebody else fly off the handle, you see somebody else start snapping. I want you to, you're already programmed that when you feel any emotion, anger, frustration, tired sadness.
When you feel that emotion, you're going to get curious about why you do it. But now after you've mastered the defense, this is one of the ones where the offense and defense go hand in hand. You've already done the work. You're getting curious if you got angry. So now when you see someone else fly off the handle, you're not going to be reactionary. You're going to be curious why they're angry. And this is incredibly important because they're probably not understanding why they're angry. And if you can understand, if you get curious and you can understand why they're having the reaction they're having with now puts you in an incredibly powerful position.
Now, you know something about them that they don't know about themselves. That's when you can really utilize NLP in an effective way. Next key point. This one's going to be, let me just read it. Improving your focus and productivity.
We all can use help there. We can all use help there. So let's see what I wrote down for focus and productivity. I got a five question checklist for you in the morning. Here's what it's going to be. What am I looking forward to today? Longer-term what am I looking forward to? Am I doing things that lead directly to my goals? Am I being my best friend and supporter? Am I in my body and enjoying the gift of being alive?
Did you get all those? Let's run through them again and we'll give some offense defense. What am I looking forward to today? First thing, when you wake up the defense that allows you to be focused right off the bat, roll out of bed. You got something to look forward to changes your state longterm. What am I looking forward to? This is going to be something that helps you pull yourself out of a funk at about Wednesday at 1130 or at four o'clock on some idle Tuesday.
When you get bad news, you're going to have this second question of longer term. What am I looking forward to? That answer is going to be able to pull you out of the doldrums. Am I doing things that lead directly to my goals? This is going to be the one that saves you from a little bit of or behavior or making some decisions that probably aren't in your best interest. Am I being my best friend and supporter? This is a tough one. A lot of the times we are our own worst critics.
We're more difficult on ourselves than anybody else. And you should have good goals for yourself, but you should be mindful that your criticism of yourself isn't destructive. Am I in my body and enjoying the gift of being alive? Are you focusing on how you feel taking care of your body when times are tough? When, when it looks like the world's crashing down on you, can you, can you look in the mirror and fake a smile and just tell yourself, gotta take the good with the bad, right?
These are the defensive postures here
Speaker 1 (37m 29s): On the offense.
Speaker 0 (37m 32s): What am I looking forward to today? The way I'm going to tell you the way I use these on offense, you may find a different way of using them or be it more subtle or sinister or superficial. But this is my strategy and how I use them. I almost, I don't ask people these questions directly, but I'll work them into a conversation, especially with people that I care about and love you.
So the first one, I would just be like, Hey, what's going on today? Or where are you headed to? And they'll fill a lot of times, he will give you this answer. That's kind of humdrum or, you know, not very enthusiastic, but if you can find a nugget in there of like, Oh, we're going to go, I got this practice and I'm going to do that thing, but Oh no, wait, what are you practicing? You know, then you can, you can perk up that person and you can change the way they feel about what they're going to do by adding a emotion into the way you perceive their question.
And you do the same thing with the second question, which is longer term, what am I looking forward to? You can ask them if they've got any plans in the future or what projects they're working on. And when they tell you what those things are, you want to push back on them with a little bit of a, not so much a positivity bomb, but a heightened sense of awareness bomb, you know, put a little infliction in your voice. Oh, you're working on that. That sounds interesting.
Really? That's what you got going on. I didn't know. I didn't know you did that. How long have you been doing that? And you got follow it up with a second or third question, right? It's like, it's like going to fight. You just don't throw a jab, right? The jab is the setup. And then you come with like a hook or do you come up with two more shots after that? In these questions or an NLP? A lot of times you have a setup, you know, sometimes you miss the first setup. So you have a jab, jab hook, uppercut jab, jab hook, upper cut, right, right.
Cross, right cross jab. You start working these questions like you would a fight. And you're leading when you're using these techniques. What you're doing in the conversation is you were chasing them around the ring. And eventually you're going to find the combination that works. You're going to back them into that corner. And you're going to get the results you want. That's a good way to think about neuro linguistic programming. You have an answer for what they're going to say, but this only comes, this kind of offensive maneuver can only come from you doing your homework and understand in a defensive posture, you have to have a lot of internal dialogue and have, don't be afraid to talk to yourself.
People probably make fun of you, but it's the best way to work out the material you need to be effective in neuro linguistic programming. Think of it as that fight, think about being in the ring and the conversation you're having with someone is a series of common nations. Ultimately leading you to a knockout only, you don't want them to see the punches you're throwing. You don't want to be odd.
You don't want to Telegraph. You don't want to be obvious, right? The fist in the velvet glove. So besides focus and productivity, I was, I wasn't going to talk about this part, but I'll, I'll just throw it in there. Cause I know that I have friends that suffer with depression and I've suffered with it from time to time.
And, and everybody goes through. Everybody goes through high points and low points. And I don't really want to call depression. I just like to call it a, a lower state of consciousness. And when you feel that way, it's usually from a neuro neuro linguistic point of view. What's going on is the language that's associated with depression is usually associated with something personal, something pervasive or something permanent.
Think of it as the three PS, the three PS of depression, the three PS of lower consciousness, the three PS of problems, personal pervasive, and permanent. If someone, if you're low, if someone you know is low, probably a personal relationship, personal finance could be something that's pervasive.
But the most common one I have found is people get into this idea of permanence. Why does this always, Oh, it's never going to get any better. I'm never going to get out of this marriage. I'm never going to get out of this debt. People believe they, they train themselves to think that permanent is a thing. And if you find yourself in any of these situations, if you, if you start getting bombed, if you get down, just think the three PS be like, Oh, it's, it's, it's personal, it's pervasive and permanent.
And all three of those P's are probably bullshit. You're probably feeling sorry for yourself. Snap the fuck out of it. All right. And nothing in life is permanent. Nothing. That's the, that's the defensive posture. Understand that all three of the PS, three PS, that's the defensive posture on the offensive posture know that you can use your knowledge of the three PS to snap somebody else out of those situations.
Of course, these could also be used to put people in different States. And if you were find yourself in a situation in which you must diff you must defend yourself by being the aggressor. Then you can use the strategies that the three P's to take out a weak or opponent and emotionally weaker opponent. And just as a side note, look, everything I'm teaching you guys. It could be used really sinister.
And I, I struggle with that. I, I got a call from my mentor that hurt my first class on it. And he, he asked me like, what am I doing to make sure that the people I teach this to aren't going to use it to hurt other people. I didn't have a real good answer for him, told them that. I believe, I believe that in today's climate, it's imperative that as many people that want to learn it can learn it because I believe that this type of linguistic programming is out of control.
And it's just being used against our parents, our kids and ourselves. And if the side effects of me teaching a large number of people, how to use NLP is that some people use it for sinister means then. So be it. I think that there's going to be, I have much more faith in humanity and much more faith in the people that I love and care about to use these techniques the right way. So use them the right way. All right, guys, I love you. Hope you enjoyed this one.
We're going to finish up here. I think we have maybe six more courses. So I'll be doing six more lectures on these. And this is course two. I love you guys. I will talk to you soon.
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